In the past few years, I started to become acutely aware that I was repeatedly saying no to things in my life. I stopped saying, “yes.” I don’t know when it happened; when saying, “no,” to life experiences became my normal.
You know that knee-jerk reaction. It’s like that. My husband would ask if I wanted to go learn how to stand up paddle board. My friends would ask me to go out. The first answer in my head was always, “NO!”
Why?? This isn’t who I am. I used to love trying new things.
When did that change? Or maybe a better question is, WHY did that change? I don’t know when saying no was normal. I do, however, know exactly why. It was because I was afraid. Afraid to fail. Afraid to be in a bathing suit in public. Afraid of being uncomfortable. Afraid. I wrote more about fear here…but that’s not what this is about.
This is about saying yes.
Saying yes to what comes your way in life. Leaning into the discomfort of it.
It’s not easy. My initial reaction is still wanting to say no. I deeply want to cocoon myself up into my safety. But that isn’t where change lives. Change lives in the discomfort. Change lives in the action. It lives in saying yes.
I don’t want to be the person who says no. So, instead I choose to say yes.