Love Yourself First

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and you may be wondering,

“How do I hit my macros and still go out with my significant other?”

This article isn’t about MyFitnessPal hacks but let’s address that question right away. Don’t track. Ghost MFP. Rather focus on enjoying your food and connecting with your significant other. No guilt or shame.

Now, what I really want to talk to you about. Loving yourself. What I would love for you to do this Valentine’s Day is to practice self-love. I work on this with a lot of my clients. A lot of people come to me because they think loving themselves comes from wearing a smaller size. Newsflash, happiness is not found at the bottom of a bag of M&Ms nor is it found in your skinny jeans. You can drink all the green drinks you want but you won’t truly be happy or healthy unless you deal with the shit in your head and practice self-love.

I did a little exercise with my clients lately where I asked the question,

“What are the most amazing things about you?”

Want to know what happened? Everyone had a really hard time coming up with things that are amazing about them. Even myself. I think that is ridiculous! If a friend came up to you and said they couldn’t think of amazing things about themselves, you would be able to start rattling off a hundred things that is amazing about them. Why can’t we do it about ourselves?

Before you start talking about it being cocky or arrogant to talk about yourself, I’m just going to stop you right there. There is a big difference between arrogance and pride in oneself. If we can’t be proud and love ourselves, how can we truly feel we are worthy of love and acceptance?

Practicing self-love takes time and PRACTICE. Don’t expect it to be super comfortable or easy at first. Nothing worth doing is ever easy from the start. However, the more you invest into yourself, the more you will have to give for others.

How to Practice Self-Love

The Physical

Do things that make your body feel good. Your body is your home and it’s important to take care of it. This can range from touch to things that support your physical well-being.

Things such as:

  • Massage
  • Skincare Routine
  • Treat yo’self to a spa day
  • Movement
    • Stretching
    • Sweating

Acts of Service

Do things that make you feel good on the inside. Serving others and yourself can be a powerful way to feel good about yourself. Things such as:

  • Therapy
  • Cleaning
  • Acts of Kindness

Receiving Gifts

Treat yo’self! Things such as:

  • Book a trip
  • Stay in your PJs all day
  • Indulge in something you’ve been wanting for a while
  • Invest in coaching

Quality Time

Spend time doing what you love! This could be a hobby or just some quality time with yourself! Things like:

  • Meditate
  • Journal
  • Date yourself
  • Spend time on a hobby or being creative

Words of Affirmation

How you speak to yourself matters! Sometime you just gotta give yourself some encouragement. Things like:

  • Positive self-talk
  • Affirmations (like the question I asked my clients above)
  • Mantras

I Don’t Have Time.

I hear this all the time with clients! Are you seriously telling me that you can’t find at least 10-15 min a day for yourself? You have 24 hours in a day. 15 minutes would be 1% of your day. ONE PERCENT and you can’t invest that into yourself. Yes you can. It just hasn’t been a priority. Start making yourself a priority. ‘Nuff said.

This is Weird.

When you look at the above suggestions, they may seem weird or silly or uncomfortable. There’s a reason you clicked onto this post and even got this far. What do you have to lose? Just start trying some of them. Some will resonate with you, some won’t. Just don’t shy away from something because it feels uncomfortable. These things take practice.

What will you do to practice self-love?



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